If you were some sort of genie able to grant wishes and please everyone you know, wouldn’t you be tired by now?
Wouldn’t it be nice to take a break and get out?
You live your life trying to make everyone you love happy, comfortable, and feeling loved.
You’re there for them on their good and bad days, you’re happy when they are and you cry when they’re sad. Then one day you’re the one having a bad day and it makes you realise that they wouldn’t even do the slightest thing for you.
Regardless of the fact that you just realised they’re not real friends, you’re also not a genie, and your job isn’t to make everyone you love happy.
That’s their own job, and yours is to create your own happiness.
I’m not saying it’s bad to “give without wanting anything back in return”, I’m saying there’s a difference between being nice and being taken for granted.
Sometimes it’s okay to be selfish and take care of yourself without being there for every single human being you know.
I’m not saying you should ignore a homeless person, or that you shouldn’t call your grandmother and visit her because she lives alone, and I’m definitely not telling you to leave your dog hungry because he can’t let you know you’re appreciated.
What I’m saying is, look around you.
How many times have you been there for those you loved? Do they all appreciate you? Would they all take that extra mile for you the way you would for them? If that’s the case, then hold on to them and consider yourself lucky. But it’s not the case with everyone, because genuinely good people are hard to find.
You’ve all heard that not everyone has the same heart as yours, but if you think that and I think that, then who are the ones with the bitter and selfish hearts who make us all quote this?
You’d think that by now you’d have it all figured out, the ones you should hold on to, the ones who really matter, and the ones who actually give a damn or two. It’s okay if you don’t, but starting today, make it your mission to take care of yourself.
Maybe add it to your list of resolutions for 2019, or what I like to call “the list of unfinished resolutions since 2011”.
This is a blog post for those who think that it’s okay to be super nice and that God will see the good that you’re doing, even if those around you don’t.
Guess what? Right now, those around you will either lift you up with their love or bring you down with their lack of appreciation. Because to me, the first step towards loving someone, is letting them know they matter, and actually proving it.